Lately, more than ever, I treasure relationships that I've built over the years and those that are new that I feel like I don't want to end anytime soon...
When I say relationships, I mean close relationships - like between friends or partners, but mostly the ones that put us in a confusing situation. I'm sure that all of us have a lot of things going on, and time is a luxury so we should be wise on who we spend it with. I'm not one to play mind games, I want the relationship to be honest and open. To be inspiring, motivating and encouraging. Not something that makes my heart uneasy or a reason for me to wake up with a heavy heart. But no relationship will go smoothly, bumps on the roads are normal just as long as you can communicate it. I emphasized on communication because I know how difficult it could be to communicate my feelings. Not until last year I realized how communication is crucial.
People come into your life so that you can learn. Learn from their mistakes and learn from the mistakes of the relationship that you build with them. Last year's in particular taught me that I need to communicate better, express my feelings and stop overthinking like it's my hobby. How I should stop worrying because everything happens for a reason. How certain things that seems to take you down is actually elevating you. And sadly, I learned that sometimes, it takes us to lose someone to learn about our self-worth - which proved that not everything you lose is a loss.
You expect relationship to better each other, build each other and grow together but none of this would happen if you are not being yourself. Someone told me that I should be comfortable enough to be myself and transparent to be in a relationship. But being myself means not taking advantage of people, not doing things half ass, so I guess I should forget all about the ego and pride, do what feels right and say what I feel. That way you could see each other true potential and learn their imperfections.
To enter any kinds of relationship is to know the consequences, to not be scared of getting hurt, to be mature enough to be vulnerable and talk about your feelings. To know that just like any growth, you can't be ready for it. Most of the time it happens in the most unexpected ways possible.
So when things gets confusing, when things makes you feel unhappy, talk about it... Make the relationship to be something worth wasting time on, be comfortable with each other so that you could say what ever it is that's on your mind. You should be able to be yourself and still feel appreciated and loved. But when the relationship took its toll on you and you feel hurt, learn from it - learn what you should avoid in your other relationship and what you deserve. Just know that eventually, it will take you closer to what's yours.
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What about you, what's been lingering on your mind?
P.S: I'm so grateful that many of you is liking the direction where the blog is going, there are still many things I want to learn - visually it still need improvements, well more like a web designer... #help but content wise, I want to make something that you would appreciate more, something that involves YOU. So, share with me what do you want to see on the blog and let's make this thing an us thing...